Aaron

My son has been sick for the last few days. He’s finally breathing better and right now he and his Dad are crashed out on the couches in our living room. I’ve never had a two month old with a cough and a cold at all – let alone one who coughs so hard that he turns bright red and seems to not be breathing. Of course I dialed 911.

Thank God he’s okay.

Thank God he has a father on earth who has gone through this before, and a father in heaven watching over us all. All weekend I was so greatful (and still am) for my husband’s guidance. Because all week during the day as it got worse and I went to the doctor I was just scared. My issues are so far from this.

I’m boiling potatoes to go with lunch because I forgot to throw them in the crockpot yesterday and it’s almost time for him to wake up and do a breathing treatment, but I’m totally sleeping then. I just hit a wall of fatigue about 2 feet thick. Football … lovely …

God help my little boy to feel better and thank you for our insurance, for my husband, for teaching me what to do. Now never let us need any of it again.

Can I get an Amen?

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Strip Mall Hell

Help, I’m drowning in a sea of strip malls! Or at least that’s how it feels. In the middle of America there are Chili’s, Applebees, Macy’s, Nordstrom, an occasional Tiffany’s – once in a while a break out like I Dream of Falafel. But everything is stuck into the same brick laced, mall shaped buildings. They’re awful. And predictable. Flying into Arizona I expected to see something different, but instead I found the same. Damn. Thing. Right down to the Chili’s.

And they put these maps on the table, as though it’s comforting to see that right now in Anchorage Alaska someone is eating the exact same 2 for $20 as I am. I’m not comforted. I’m just depressed. Working with small businesses makes me really appreciate the question “How do I differentiate myself from my competitors?” Because that question and everything that goes into the question – and the answer – are really what makes a difference in the world. Really. Don’t believe me if you don’t want to, but I’m being sincere here.

Differentiation is the thing that makes people stop and remember you. It’s what let Ray Croc go from one McDonald’s to 10 and then 100, then 1,000 – it’s why there is a KFC in Trafalgar Square and why I have a Zippo (note, not just a lighter) from the McDonald’s on the Champs-Elysees. There are three ways small businesses differentiate themselves, even if, in practice, they are the exact same as everyone else. Now listen up – this is important.

1. Service. When is the last time you went somewhere and the service really knocked you out? I can tell you the last time someone hit me over the head with stellar service. It was last year, a small diner by my house. My husband and I continued going there several times a week for the next year even though the food has been just good after the first 6 times. And we still do. Because the service continues to amaze us – and we like to support that.

2. Relationships. This is hand in hand with service. Instead of being transactional, great business people build relationships so that the customers keep coming back to them. Mcdonald’s is a wonderful example of this. They take the time to care about what society needs – whether it’s apple slices, different toys, or larger sizes, and then they incorporate those needs into the jingles that are on the air.

On a different scale, Best Buy showed they were listening to the market with their Best Buy for Business strategy. They saw that online companies weren’t able to provide a hands on experience for product, and that they weren’t able to provide consultative selling. Customers were coming in on referral from account managers at major etailers just to walk right back out. Best Buy for Business is a way to capture that market before they walk out the door.

3. Community. Small businesses have an opportunity to capitalize on local relationships and community in a way mega businesses cannot. Participation in the community can help your business – so get out there and become known. Sponsor a baseball team, provide drinks or snacks for a town hall meeting, stop by the fire department. What are the ways you can say hello to the area and differentiate yourself from the major corporations just setting up shop?

Small businesses need a lot of things when they get started, but if you start off with a sense of who you are, a strong ability to provide great service, and a desire to be a part of the community, that will go far. And help keep you from becoming one of the “seen one, seen ‘em all” strip malls taking over America … one brick at a time.

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First Love

I feel the baby kicking inside of me and it makes me wonder about him. Will he be tall? Short? White? Black? Have the kind of in between dusky skin that Evan has? I feel him kick and I wonder if it isn’t a kind of silent communion, child to mother. When he is still I yearn for movement, when he moves I have to pee. It’s a strange sort of salutation, this inside out of it all.

We’re planning a party for Evan’s birthday and I’m so excited to do it – but at the same time really nervous because I’ve never had a party before – even for only a handful of people. At least not one where the best expectation was drinking, getting drunk, passing out. Those parties are easy. This one seems like more of a challenge. There will be adults and people to see and speak to and really – I don’t like people all that much.

So I regress to sitting back and feeling the baby in our silent communion. Imagining when we will have things for him and his brother. Imagining when he will be real enough to know his brother. I feel a quiet sort of elation inside of me and then it pauses, as though if it gets too loud it will burst, and I am left with a simply wonderful feeling of waiting.

 And then he kicks again.

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Radical Transformation

We ate bad pizza last night and threw out more stuff that had been cluttering our apartment for years. Part of me wonders -  if we had been this thorough throwing things out before, would we have loved where we lived? Would we have wanted to stay forever? Or would I still have felt an overriding distaste for the people in the apartments next to us, the six cats running wild across the lawn, the mushrooms that blossomed, and blackened, overnight?

The beauty of living simply is a philosophy that has been espoused over ages and through centuries. Monks, aesthetics, Spartans, Thoreau … the enlightened have all achieved their spiritual nirvana by divesting themselves of worldly things and cloaking themselves in the everything that is God. Even today there are people who live simply.

Today we call them hermits. Crazy. Unabomber. Maybe that’s extreme.

 Not everyone who lives off the land is a terrorist and not everyone with things is a materialist. Surely there is a middle ground, a place where one can serve God from comfort. The thing, though, is that the Bible tells us this is not true. And if you don’t believe the Bible, then there are a thousand other texts from which to take the same information and meaning.  But why not believe the Bible?

 When choosing how to live the questions we must ask ourselves are simple and few.

-          What is our personal philosophy

-          What do I believe

-          Where have I come from, where am I now, and where am I going

-          Who am I

-          What matters to me

 Those five questions, when answered, can provide radical peace, radical discomfort, or become the catalyst for a radical transformation. I don’t believe there is a middle ground if the questions are honestly asked – and just as straight forwardly answered.

 Who are You?

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What it Was, What Happened, What it’s like Now

I grew up in the Church. My parents taught CCD every week and chaperoned high school students at softball games and overnights. Some of my favorite memories involve late nights at our church, or the spot where I once spilled a Slurpee while running with my cousin and sister during a late night meeting. I was baptized, made my first communion, and my confirmation. I read the comic book Bible and learned the stories of Ruth, of Samson, of Jesus by the well, the redemption of Mary Magdalene.
As an adolescent things got harder and I questioned God. Why do people get sick. Why do they die. When my first real boyfriend raped me I lost the ability to hold onto the faith I had remaining. God had abandoned me or was dead. It didn’t occur to me that perhaps I had walked away.
I tried to kill myself at 16, then again at 21. During the intervening years I drank, I smoked, I was incautious, and promiscuous. I knew I was going to Hell because of what I’d done, so I didn’t care what I did.
I was blessed.
At 21 I woke up in the hospital and I knew there was something bigger than me. Knew there was a God who loved me. My parents were with me, had supported me, and if their – very human love – could support me through all that had happened – I knew God’s had to be so much bigger. God became alive to me, in my life, in my heart. I began to heal.
Through years of prayer and therapy and groups, I started to get better. I began to believe I was worth more than the nothing I had believed for so long. Still I fought God’s will for me. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t find the grace and happiness so many other people knew. I prayed, I talked to people – I was so lost.
I was driving around with a friend late one night, picking something up, and he ran into his house to get something. I was so short of money – I didn’t know how I would pay the rent. The thoughts of suicide were back, and though I knew they weren’t right, they were real. Visceral. But in that moment, I talked to God. I asked Him to guide me. I turned my life and will over to Him and to His son Jesus Christ – and I began to trust Him, truly. As the sun rose it really was a new day.
Life did not get all better, things weren’t perfect, but in that moment, I knew – just like I had known in that hospital a few years before – that I would never be alone again. It was January 2003.
In 2006 I was travelling with my now husband to visit my best friend and her husband in Mississippi. We sat in church that Sunday morning and I heard them say they were having a “Just Do It” baptism. I knew it was something I had to do – I had to profess my faith before the world. I stood and changed, then plunged into the waters of faith.

God changes my life every day. I am still me – still the core person I have been since I was a little girl reading my Bible in the back of the church, but I am more honestly and genuinely myself than I have ever been. I am able to be myself in any situation because I have absolute faith in my savior. Jesus has taken my fear and while I am still sometimes afraid, I know that I never have to walk alone in my fear.
He allows me to glorify Him through my words, my actions, my life.
Before I came back to God I wanted to make a difference in the world, but since I have volunteered every year – in different ways and places. I have worked with battered women, with people learning English, with victims of Hurricane Katrina, and theatre groups. Before coming to God I wanted a husband but was unable to be a partner, now I learn each day how to be a good wife, and I pray for His guidance in my life – to be a wife, to be a mother, to be the kind of person and partner He wants me to be.
I am imperfect, but I have a perfect vision of His love.
I am so grateful.

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Why Should I Care?

In a recent conversation with a small business owner the discussion turned to brand. What is a brand, why should I work to build my brand? Won’t my brand be created organically as my business grows? The reality of the situation is that almost no brand grows organically. Businesses, good businesses, are carefully planned from the time the new owners choose a name and request venture capital funds to the time they hire their first employees. Great businesses plan further. Great businesses start with five year or ten year plans. These are the businesses that understand the importance of brands and from the moment their doors open, everything they can is emblazoned with their logo, everything they do is stamped with a sameness.

A brand is more than a logo or slogan, it is a standard of accomplishment. A good example of branding is Marshall Fields. The Fields brand is a legacy in Chicago, not just for the brand itself, but for their mint chocolates, for their Christmas windows, and finally for the department stores that always housed the most elegant fashions. A Marshall Fields shopping experience was something Mothers, daughters, and granddaughters shared, looking forward to passing that trip on to the next generation. But what was it about the Field’s brand that differentiated it from Sears or Penney’s or even Carson Pirie Scott, a near competitor in pricing and product?

“Right or Wrong, the customer is always right.”

“Good will is the one and only asset that competition cannot undersell or destroy.”

“Give the lady what she wants.”

Marshall Field exemplified customer first business practices that allowed his employees to put aside the care of $1 for the good of the millions of dollars they would make with excellent customer service. His brand was made up of Frango Mints, fine clothing, and impeccable service. By continuing that for 97 years after his death, the Marshall Field brand remained consistent and strong.

My passion is for the small business owner. I see many stores and companies with non descript names and un interesting business cards. I find owners without a real sense of mission statement or an idea of how to brand themselves on the market. There are a few easy things that any small business can do to brand themselves;

-          Use the same logo and lettering on everything

-          Have a mission statement and make sure all employees understand what it is

-          Maintain a color theme that coordinates with the logo

-          Let your online presence mesh with your face to face presence; ie your website shouldn’t be red if your business is all blue and white

-          Know the tone of your business and make sure everyone is consistent

  • Are you fun and friendly?
  • Serious and sincere?
  • Kind and concerned?

-          Have a 5 year plan and re assess every year

-          What differentiates you from the other (car dealer, hair shop, small restaurant) in the area

Taking a few simple steps will keep your business from spiraling into the sea of strip mall mediocrity that is right now creeping across America. Small businesses can differentiate themselves from one another. It’s a simple matter of know how and willingness. The rest comes in time.

Good Luck – and feel free to email or comment with any questions!

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Rules of Building a Brand

What is a brand name? Coca Cola, McDonald’s, VISA, Republican, Democrat. Elvis. What do these things have in common? What makes them different from all of those things out there, products and people, who would consider themselves competitors? What differentiates Joe’s Wing Shack down the street from your house from the now infamous Hooter’s or BW3?

Branding is nothing less than what you do in combination with how you represent what you do in the public realm. Want to sell computers out of your garage? Want to make them cheaper than the next guy, better, quicker? Michael Dell did. Does your software rule the world? Bill Gates’ does; he called it Microsoft.

In order to build a brand it takes five steps. These practices are easy to implement but just as easy to skip because they take time. Make the investment in yourself and your business

  1. Know your market. Who are your competitors and why are they successful. Know how you fit into the market, and then how you can break out of the market as the rising star. What makes your company unique? Special? More than a flash in the pan?
  2. Create a portfolio of tools to communicate with your clients. Don’t have clients yet? Don’t worry. Once you do, you’ll want to communicate with them. In the meantime, start posting information that is relevant to your business and the clients you want to attract.
  3. Be consistent about your website / blog / twitter / face book arsenal and remember to network. It’s not only important to put out information, it’s equally important to provide feedback to other professionals on the web. A referral is the best compliment I can receive, and usually the best client.
  4. Go outside the web. Remember that live is for living. Whether you’re at a local event for professionals or a seminar far from home, networking is key to success. Include your Web information on your business card for a virtual touch to a face to face conversation.
  5. Don’t lose sight of your ultimate goal; promoting your brand. Remember, you are your brand. Everything you put online or have with you in person reflects on who you are in business. Professionalism is the key to how others see you.

What does your online portfolio say about you? Maybe it’s time to revisit the rules of online engagement and polish the edges of your image.

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If I start a statement with “I” does that inherently make it selfish? I keep trying to see my side in everything and starting over, reading books, looking for answers in the Bible – but I feel like I am met with dissent and resentment at every turn. I am so confused and lost … at the same time I just need an answer.

 So I will stay quiet and search and hope and pray and perhaps find an answer in the great stillness that is God.

 There is a doctor’s appointment tonight and I just keep hoping he’ll say the baby is going to come soon. I really really want to meet him. I’m excited for that.

 God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.

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Argh

Threw my keys across the room this morning because the chicken smell was making me crazy. Yelled a little. Spoke words of hate. Because of … I don’t know.

God I hate it when I lose control, when I’m mean.

Help me to curb my tongue. Help him to forgive me.

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A Love Note

It?s almost spring again. Almost the time of year when everyone says ?what did I DO for the last year?? and goes into frantic mode cleaning out the closets and getting rid of things. This year I want to clean everything out. Divest myself of all of the things that have been just sitting. I?ve had a storage locker for two years. That?s around $2,000 for storing things I haven?t looked at in 2 years. The only thing I want out of it is a desk and honestly I?ll sell that too ? because the only thing I need is my writing.

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = “urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office” />..?..Time for change.

For renewal.

It?s almost Lent.

..?..I started mine early.

My pact with God is to be the person he created me to be. That includes being the person I was when Bruce and I were dating instead of the person I?ve been since we got married. Means being the person I was when I was on my own ? being secure in myself and my worth, in my art and my abilities, and it means getting back to the things that are sincerely important to me.

..?..Faith is an amazing thing. As soon as I started praying and reading more I started feeling so much better. As soon as I asked Him for the answers and listening to what was being said. As soon as I took what I knew and accepted it instead of continuing to ask when I already had the answers. I don?t need to do that. It?s counter productive and obnoxious.

To other people, but mostly to me.

And it?s destructive.

..?..So in this time of change and renewal, in this time of re awakening and resurrection

..?..I wish you all peace, good health, happiness, and space

To breathe and to be your own best selves. Go to it!

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